Updated: Dec 10, 2020
We’re told to avoid stress at all costs, but stress makes us better, it makes us stronger, it can break us or help us rise, it’s all a matter of what we do with it and how we respond to it.
There are two kinds of stress. One can be used. The other can be crippling.
Stress From Worry
Stress from worry is crippling, it’s also illogical. It’s the fear of what is not yet a reality, but may be. It’s not taking into account that you can shape your future by doing what must be done in the present.
Stress From Daring
Stress from daring is the stress that comes from ambitious, even audacious goals. When you set a big goal, you get butterflies. When you take massive action, you can feel a little sick.
You’re also filled with an unexplainable energy.
You’re challenged to rise to the occasion, and as a warrior, you do so. That’s the battle… Are you a warrior or Worrier?
You’ll be both at times, but the key is to be the warrior in the end;
10 Ways to Be a Warrior Not a Worrier
1. Find the deep end.
Always set a goal, then multiply it.
Set an income goal, then 10x it.
Set a travel goal, then think of something bigger.
Goals should not make you feel safe. They should scare the crap out of you. Find the deep end and force yourself to learn how to swim.
2. Be among those who challenge you.
A warrior pushes himself, trains hard, lives dangerously and hangs out with others that push them to be something better than they already are.
3. Know the misconception of fearing about the future.
Worry is often simply coming to an illogical conclusion about what you feel will happen in the future as a result of what you’ve done, where you are, or where you feel you’re headed.
Understand the misconception. It often happens at night when we’re tired and the fear part of the brain is on steroids. Breathe slow. Think calmly and logically and understand that these conclusions you’ve come up with are not the most likely outcome.
4. Understand that it’s your reaction to the event, not the event that matters.
Emotions lie. Desires lie. You have your ultimate goal, and sometimes your emotions and desires can tell you to do things that pull you further away from your ideal rather than bringing you closer to it.
It’s never the event, the moment or the thing that matters, but how you look at it. Step back | detach | Look at it logically.
5. Write it down.
Write down your greatest fear, that thing that brings you the most worry. Bring it into the tangible world and put it on paper.
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When you bring it out from the ether, you have an enemy you can look in the eye and deal with. Sometimes writing down this fear makes you fear it less, it makes it more real and it allows you to detach your emotions. It’s often the emotions, our reaction to something that are the enemy, not the thing at all.
6. Have a routine.
When you have a good routine, what you need to get done isn’t left to chance, mood or motivation.
You accomplish what you accomplish when you need to accomplish it. It takes the worry out of the day because the goal is clearer, the reason for doing what you’re doing is obvious.
Figure out a firm routine. Don’t leave your future to chance or something as fickle as motivation. You have shit to do. Do it daily without exception.
7. Breathe slowly, walk slowly, think slowly.
When we’re process-driven we’re focused on the thing that will make the result happen. When we’re results driven, we’re ignoring the process that will bring the result.
Being slow helps you think more clearly. It helps you become more aware of what you’re doing, more aware of what you’re thinking and the illogical thoughts are easier to smooth out.
It’s also more difficult to be stressed when you’re moving and acting and thinking slowly. Try it. Life is better, more purposeful and rewarding when you’re slow.
8. Accept the worst case.
Figure out what the real worst case is. Not your illogical fear, but what really could happen, and accept it.
I’ve forked out lots of cash! The absolute worst case (and it’s not going to happen, but it’s nice to accept the worst) is that my business crashes, that money runs out, and that I have to find a job to pay back the debt.
I can do that if I need to. Accepted! Now do everything in my power to learn from what I’ve implemented and invested in and implement everything I learn. Worry over. Steps taken forward. Worst accepted. Burden lifted.
9. Study history.
History is powerful. No matter what you’re going through, someone has been through worse and they’ve risen above to something greater than you can even comprehend.
Find evidence in the past that will propel you to where you need to be in the future.
When you see what people have overcome, and you realise that they’re just people, you see that your problems will pass, but you have to be the constant.
10. Be a winner.
This is the best idea of how to attain success.
“Don’t aim at success. The more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one’s personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one’s surrender to a person other than oneself.
Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not worrying about it. Listen to what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge and ability. Then you will live to see that in the long-run success will follow you because you had forgotten to think about it”
For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue…
Be a winner. Be successful. Do not wait for it to come your way, become the person it demands you become, and what you aim at will be yours.